Day 28: Love makes sacrifices:Allowing

1 John 3:16 He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers.

Wow, this post pointed out that when life gets hard for me--i feel it, don't mind stating it.
But when my spouse is complaining--I think he's having a bad attitude.

What will love do?

Before worries and troubles have begun to bury my husband, my love should already have gone into action mode. Step in to help. I need to be more sensitive toward his needs.

Be tuned in so that I respond without being asked. And when I don't notice ahead of time--and must be told what's happening, love responds to the heart of the problem--quickly and directly.

These are the types of needs you should be looking for in your wife/husband

-Is he "hungry"--needing you sexually even when you don't feel like i?

--Is she "thirsty"--craving the time and attention you seem able to give to everyone else?

--Does he feel like a "stranger"--insecure in his work, needing home to be a refuge and sanctuary?

--Is she "naked"--frightened or ashamed, desparate for the warm covering of your loving affirmation?

--Is he feeling "sick"--physically tired and needing you to help guard him from interruptions?

--Does she feel in "prison"--fearful and depressed, needing some safety and intervention?

Love is willing to make sacrifices to see that the needs of your spouse are given your very best effort and focus.

The words "How are you doing? and "How can I help you?" need to stay fresh on your lips.

"Bear one another's burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ" (Galations 6:2).

What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse's life rigt now? He needs me to be a woman of God. To be in prayer and to work on the CARES aspect and get into it.

This is what he said to me when I asked him if there was anything I could do to make his burden light

I NEED YOUR LOVE, I NEED YOUR MINISTERING TO ME, I NEED YOUR FEMININITY TO HELP ME BE BALANCED IN THE AREAS WHERE I MAY BE TO HARSH , ETC.

I WIL ALWAYS NEED WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER, ESPECIALLY YOUR LOVE

THANK YOU SO MUCH BABE

BE THE WOMAN THAT GOD WANTS YOU TO BE FOR ME AND VICE VERSA. YOU DO EVERYTHING ELSE GREAT. YOU COOK, YOU CLEAN, ETC...THE MAIN THING IS THAT WE STAY IN THE WILL OF GOD AND WORK FOR HIS KINGDOM CONSISTANTLY

Day 27: Love Encourages: Acceptance

My frustrations, in part, are due to my high expectations. I cannot expect my husband to read my mind. I am a sensous person, I love all things that are beautiful, set to a high standard. I enjoy those things so I have to live it.

There is another part to me that likes group think. So if my husband isn't not thinking that than I lean toward what he wants--the shabby life. BUT that is self sabotage. I need to disconnect from what he thinks/wants and connect o what I think/want.

I need to let my husband know that I have evolved and that childlike innocense of following blindly will not always happen in our marraige.

I am going to live my life by encouraging myself and him too. If I stop being hard on myself--I won't be too hard on others.

Love is about personal responsibility and improving ourselves rathers than demanding more from others.

Ever wonder why your spouse is the complete opposite? Love challenges you to deal with your mate by encouraging and building, not be exhausting and belittling.

The bible says "Encourage the exhusted, and strengthen the feeble" (Isaiah 35:3)

Today's Dare:

Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in my home. Think of one or two areas where your spouse has told you that you're expecting too much, and tell them you're sorry for being so hard on them about it. Praise them for something positive and assure them of your unconditional love.

He says that I am a deep thinker and he does not think as deep as me and there are times where I want him to make sense to me or use his words wisely. this is a struggle for him--ongoing. Something that may never change

Day 26:Love is responsible: Apology

Marriage has priceless benefits. Married people are happier, healthier, live longer, make more money, have better sex lives. Produce happier and healither children than people who remain single.

I need to realize how much value Patrick adds to my life.

Taking personal responsibility is important, take good care of the blessing GOd gave me.

If I do-my mariage will be a glorious union.
If I don't however, it will be a devastating failure.

My marriage is a living garden placed under my care and my husband's care. The more responsible I am to fulfill my vows, roles and duties, the moreI will enjy many delights and wonders of our oneness.

The less responsible: the more painful, divisive the consequences.

Am I congruent in my marriage? If I want a healthy marriage am I doing what it takes to make it healthy?

If I want to be slim...am I eating portion control? Am I eating mostly fresh and healthy foods?

Is my marriage blooming under my care? Or is it wilting? I have made my husband carry all the weight of our marriage. I need to look for ways to lighten his load. I am to take full responsibility for my husband in this marriage. To love and to cherish him, to help him. Also, take responsibility for my own mistakes. Don't be quick to justify them, or quick to deflect criticism. Don't be quick to find faults with him.

Love faces reality-does not pass blame or justify wrongs. It doesn't make excuses.

Next disagreement, I need to stop and see if there is some truth to what My husband says. Instead of giving come backs, humbly receive his rebuke and take responsibility for my wrongs.

I need to confess, repent, and change. I must hunger for a right relationship with my husband again. That is true love. There is no wrong in that.

A real heart of repentance is taking a while in me because i have a prideful attitude and pride is resistent to responsibility.

I challenge myself to demonstrate humility and honesty before God and my spouse. Making my relationship right with God and my husband is my first priority right now.

Reading this dare, makes the pit of my stomach churn for so many reasons. I recognize my wrong and my soul is so childish it doesnt want to be wrong. I have hurt my best friend..and didn't care. I am experiencing conviction and I repent before the lord for my transgressions.



This is the letter I sent him...I know his response will be forgiving but I hope I can take the blow I may receive...

Dear ____,

I love you. I am getting back to my love studies and I feel so convicted for how I transgressed against you. I know I have apologized before. And I know there is still some tensions between us. But i'm still here, I am still working on me so we can be a better we. I want to know what actions can I work on to show my apology is not just heart felt words.

My changes will take time but I'm willing to put in the effort and consistency to prove that I love you beyond my selfishness. I've been selfish. I want to get back to a place of real love where I consider you. I want to grow and evolve to a place out of pride and into humility and to accept when you rebuke me instead of finding ways to justify myself. So, I am giving you the floor so to speak to tell me what you are feeling/desiring for me/from me. I will deliver, your desire is my command.

I love you,

C